Friday, May 06, 2005

On An Even Keel

by Marjorie
(I wonder if I spelled that right...)

Mike's comment on my Elastigirl post got me thinking. What if sometimes a cartoon is only a cartoon? Well, no, it didn't get me thinking that, but it does make me wonder about opinions and balance.

I am a woman of strongly held opinions. I like being that way, but I'm finally recognizing that it might be an impediment to compassion, understanding, and peace. Anyone reading through Unclimber and Barely Attentive Mother can see that Anne and I have gone at it on various issues with me blundering around in absolutes and her suggesting a bit of moderation and understanding.

Sometimes I fear that any attempt to moderate myself might end up diluting my passions. As a creature of passion, I cannot imagine life without passion. Then again, I long for more patience and understanding with my kids. I constantly remind myself that these small creatures are also vulnerable and delicate and that they really don't need mommy yelling at them in an attempt to relieve her frustrations (it never works anyway).

A final concern is that if I moderate my opinions I will become wishy-washy and aimless, unsure of anything and unable to make a decision.

Well, I think I can safely try to exercise a bit more empathy without becoming a door-mat.


Blogger Anne Zelenka said...

I know you weren't accusing me of it, but I do feel wishy-washy and aimless much of the time!

What's the answer? I don't know. I hope we're in the process of finding it here.

7:06 PM  
Blogger Marjorie said...

I hope so, too!

I feel certain much of the time, only to change my mind and feel I'm wrong and then feel terrible that I'd been so certain!

12:06 PM  
Blogger clanlally said...

There was a racing movie made in the 70's along the lines of The Cannonball Run except it wasnt a comedy. The name escapes me at the moment but there is a great scene where an Italian gentlemen jumps into his Ferrari and says to his co-pilot as he rips the rear-view mirror off its mounting:

"The first rule of Italian driving! Never care about who is behind you."

Effectively saying...never look back.

10:56 AM  
Blogger Cynical Mom said...

I am a strongly passionate woman as well, yet I find myself constantly "disclaiming" my blog posts, so that I can reduce the risk of the commenters who nitpick on one little phrase while missing the larger point of the post. E.g. I frequently add "in general..." "in many cases..." etc etc around my statements.

10:29 PM  

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